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Parents. Whether we know them, or not, we all have them. Let's face it, our relationship with our parents is one of the most complex we'll ever have. Nature dictates that we love them. Karmic ties dictates that it won't be that simple!
How people choose to bring up their children is incredibly unique and personal. Some more unique than others...we've all witnessed THAT parent swearing at or even hitting their child in public.
No matter how bad it looks or what anyone has done, you can be sure the parent is doing their best at that time. There may also be karmic or Soul Contract reasons for their behaviour, that we know nothing about and have no right to judge.
The truth is, we mostly learn to be parents by being parents and so we get better with time, rather than being good at it when there's a need to be.
Over the years collectively we change the way parenting looks. What was considered 'right' years ago, isn't now and so on...
My parents taught me so much and though I was often taught the hard way, I'm grateful for all they've done for me. Below are 10 lessons that I believe brought about early soul evolution within me and for that I'm particularly grateful for:
1) Independance. My parents have never disempowered me by 'fixing' things for me. This lesson carried right through to my adulthood, though they act as a sounding board when I have problems, they will never step in, take over and sort these problems for me. The beauty of this is that I don't need them to - because they taught me not to need them to. On a practical level, though devastating, when they die, I'll be able to cope with any of life's issues without them.
2) Manners and gratitude. This isn't just about going through the notions, it's about being taught to care about the effect I have on others. My parents taught me to be considerate and more importantly, they taught me why. My mum would talk me through what people did for me so I understood any sacrifices made and would be appropriately grateful. In this busy life, things can get taken for granted easily and this foundation helps me not to do that.
A lot of children barely utter the word "thanks" these days and even less mean it.
3) To be myself. This was especially hard since I'm a twin. From the start our parents let us choose our own clothes which paved the way for us having our own identity. My mum used to say "You're not a doll for me to dress up. You're a human being." If I liked something different I was praised for it. When I got teased for being me (different), I was always offered reassurance that there was nothing wrong with me. I wasn't allowed to do grown up things when I was a child and this further reinforced that it was OK to be me and not a grown up.
Peer pressure to be more grown up than you are, to look a certain way and to do certain things, is worse than ever, since children have access to it all day and night. They're a marketer's dream. Plus, parents don't want their children to be left out or stand out. My question is...why not? Our uniqueness is what makes us who we are.
4) All people matter. I was never a 'princess'. I wasn't allowed to get too big for my boots, or for the world to revolve around me. I was taught that everyone matters and that I'm not any better or worse than others. My mum is an empath like me and she used this quality to teach me about other people, rather than focusing on myself all the time. I was given the skill of understanding myself in relation to others and being down to earth as a consequence.
I was taught to be kind to everyone. This was especially true with family. I wasn't allowed to be mean to my siblings. This showed me that all people and their feelings are relevant and matter. If you can't get away with it at home, then you won't try and get away with it outside of home.
With the joy of a new arrival, it's easy to put the baby on a pedestal and then very hard to take them down thereafter. If we don't take them down, it leads to self-centred adults who can't cope in a world that isn't all about them. Not that children shouldn't be loved and celebrated, just that there's a fine line between that and adulation, which is unhealthy.
5) Mistakes are good. If you're a regular reader of my blog, you'll know what I'm a serial mistake maker. What better way to learn? I believe mistakes aren't even mistakes, they're necessary growth spurts on way to our purpose. I wouldn't be capable of knowing that, if I hadn't been allowed to go my own way, do my own thing and make mistakes.
So often, parents have it all planned out for their children, usually something like this....school, college (part-time job), uni (travel if they're privileged), predictable 'good' job, marriage, 2.4 children. Nice safe, mistake-free plan, there's nothing wrong with wanting what we perceive to be 'best' for our children, but it's hardly entrepreneurial. It doesn't encourage the person to really live life to the fullest or to discover their true potential.
A bit like keeping them in a playpen for the rest of their lives, for fear of what they might encounter in the playroom.
6) Presents and money don't make you happy. They can bring temporary joy and excitement, which feels like happiness to those who haven't experienced real happiness. I never got expensive gifts or lots of presents. I got just as excited as other children at xmas and birthdays and have many good memories from these, which are connected to sustainable things such as good times with family and friends - not what I 'got'.
My parents didn't allow me to equate belongings to my self esteem and this has stood me in good stead as an adult. As we all know money and gifts come and go. I don't hang my hopes for happiness on external factors and this is purely down my early life experiences.
These days a lot of parents only seem to be (fake) happy if they're indulging their children in some 'over the top' way. If parents themselves can't be happy without the grand gesture, how can they expect their children to even be satisfied, let alone, happy? The large gift pit is a never ending hole that can't be filled and distracts you from real happiness. So, why start the pit in the first place?
7) Boundaries and respect. What my mum and dad said, went. I'm a rebellious soul with strong ideals so my parents had a torrid time trying to enforce their boundaries. Credit to them, though, they did enforce them at all costs. It taught me to be more careful what battles I chose and to listen to and to respect people.
These days some parents want their children to like them, not respect them. No-one wants to set tough rules that go against their childrens upper most wishes. Instead, it's all about fun, fun, fun and keeping the child from any disappointment whatsoever, which is great, but unfortunately, we live in a world full of rules that have to be obeyed and there will always be disappointments. You can't expect kids that have never had boundaries to react well to a world full of rules and disappointment, as adults.
Instead there's often a kind of silent agreement between parent and child that the rules will be ones that are easy for the children to obey, to save from any confrontation or difficulty. There's often also no reprisal for children that go against set rules and this too is not going to help them later in life.
8) Responsibility. If I did something wrong, I made up for it and I don't mean I got grounded - I mean, I found a way to make right what I did wrong. My parents have never helped me to the point that I'm not really doing things for myself. In fact anything I did, I took responsibility for it. Whether that meant I got punished or praised or just outright lumbered with tasks to do, it happened. This gave me the self belief that I could do anything, after all, my parents wouldn't leave it all to me if I wasn't capable.
I don't believe anything in my life is anybody elses responsibility and that belief empowers me way beyond the easiness of not taking responsibility.
Often people teach children that anything they don't like in life, is someone elses fault. This isn't the case, since our whole world is a reflection, a lesson, on who we are internally. Only when we take full responsibility can we change things.
9) It's good to give. From a young age I was taught to give and to share. Sharing my birthday with my sister helped a lot with this as I learnt to share her joy and not to only think of myself.
I did volunteer work for charities from a very young age and I loved it. I like helping people and this was encouraged. I was taught that being mean and defensive, is no defence at all.
We live in a world where children are often encouraged to be hard, to hit back, to never give to anyone or forgive and this turns the whole world hard and we can't live like that, since everything we do is connected. A different perspective, would get a different outcome, more of the same... generates...more of the same.
If one person suffers, we all suffer, as that suffering energy lingers and prevents us from experiencing good vibes and the good things that come with those vibes.
10) Emotions are normal and ok. I wasn't really allowed to watch TV since it's a false representation of life and my astute parents knew that. Instead I learnt about people and their emotions the real way - in the home. My parents didn't hide their emotions. If they were sad - they cried, happy - they smiled, angry - they shouted.
This taught me the full range of emotions and that it's safe to feel them and admit to them.
When a pet died, it died. No-one went rushing out to the pet shop to get a look-a-like and pretend it didn't happen. No-one desperately tried to stop me from feeling sad about it with distractions and replacements. I felt every bit of pain and this taught me that I can survive anything because emotions are just markers that show us what to do next in life.
Many parents are so desperate for their children to only experience what they perceive to be 'good' emotions, that they go out their way to try and create a fairytale life for them filled with everything they could ever dream of. This is not real life and as such it is not preparation for the real world.
You can see from my list that I had quite an extreme upbringing, that it was full of lessons - both for my parents and me. However, I'm so grateful, as that childhood has given me such good life skills and coping techniques.
To find happiness in this dual universe you need harmony and for that you need to experience extremes, so you can then find your balance point - the bit in the middle that is true to you. By allowing me to experience extremes, my parents allowed me to find true happiness.
So many times now parents shelter their children and won't allow them any extremes apart from joy. It's impossible for this to lead to happiness as the polarity driven universe won't allow it that way.
I hope our collective way of parenting brings about change back to some of the old fashioned ways, so we can have less spoilt adults that don't cope well with life and more well rounded adults that are unique and enabled to create a better world for us all to live in.
Predictably, this blog post is dedicated to my mum and dad for being awesome at the hardest job in the world - parenting. Thank you.
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There's a lesson in my life that has taken me years to learn and as such it kept re-appearing in my life in many ways and I could never understand why. Until today that is.
As an 18 year old that was pregnant, jobless, pretty much friendless and without my own home, I clung desperately to the man who I got pregnant with in the vague hope he'd support me and our unborn baby. You can probably tell what I'm going to write next...that it was all in vain. Long before I realised it, he had chosen to walk away and relinquish himself of all responsibility. I spent all my time trying to contact him and was really cutting a pathetic figure chasing after him like that. Another lesson learnt.
At the time I was hurt, if you think you get hurt when you get rejected, you should try having your child rejected - that hurts more. With a little more time I was relieved and could see the positives - I was solely responsible for our child and so every decision, every up and down, all fell on me and I actually preferred that. I'm quite unique in how I believe children should be treated and brought up and so it saved inevitable rows.
I got to spend a lot of time with my son and those are the most precious memories of my whole life. So we didn't have a lot, but we did have each other and that was (still is) priceless.
When my son was very little, people from the Benefits Agency called at our home at a ridiculous hour in the morning and scared us to death. It was far too early, though luckily, we were up as my son is an insomniac. They were checking that I was indeed single. They found that yes I was and they persuaded me that I really must apply to the Child Support Agency (CSA) for maintenance money. They all but had my arm up my back. I agreed and was just happy to get them out my house.
It's now 19 years later and we haven't had any maintenance payments, but we have had endless confusion and let downs from the CSA, letters saying we'll be getting x amount starting next week, then nothing materialises, none stop mixed up letters, phone calls to people who don't know what's happening...it's been a lot of hassle when I think back on it.
They even made it an official debt through the courts, had Private Investigators and Bailiffs involved and still we received nothing.
For a long time it rumbled on in the background of our lives and I thought nothing of it - it was just an open ongoing case that may eventually get us a little extra income. How wrong I have been.
Recently someone I know has been having issues with the CSA. This is not unique - I know loads of people who have issues with them. This is the other way round though, this person is being cleared out by them and their own personal circumstances ignored in favour of the other party. It seems the balance is skewed with these things and that those willing to pay, will pay through the nose and that those who choose to ignore the letters - won't pay at all.
I like things to be fair, but really fairness doesn't exist, since we all create our own reality. Those that are putting out the energy that they won't get maintenance or that they don't deserve it, won't get any, and those that put out the energy that they will get it, and that they do deserve it, will get payments. It does take all parties to create the overall energy though.
The thing is, by keeping the case open, all I have done is give myself karma. After all, I know deep down he will not pay so that is the energy I'll get back at me and it is therefore a pointless exercise. Plus, I have put another human being through court and all the other stuff too. This is going to come back to me down the energetic lines that connect me to this situation and as the Law states it will come back to me three or tenfold. Crikey! I do not want to be around when that comes back to me. Beam me up, Scotty!
Today I closed the case and it felt very good to cut loose and let it go. I asked for forgiveness and I sent positive energy its way to go some way to making up for what I have done.
I'm very grateful to the people I know who have presented this lesson to me over and again. It was winding me up no end seeing this woman chase after maintenance and 'extras' at all costs from the person that I know, and never accept responsibility for her own income. It's put the person I know into a terrible financial position for years of their life, and frankly, it does seem unreasonable that they don't just want a fair amount, but instead want to make the other person suffer financially - this has nothing to do with keeping children fed and clothed, but is all about not having to earn income themselves, being kept in a lifestyle they enjoy and wanting revenge too.
Everyone in our lives is a reflection of us. I couldn't face this reflection, after all, it is a very ugly one. However, I can't say after 19 years of allowing the CSA to relentlessly pursue money for us, that I am all that different. I did it in ignorance but that's no excuse.
All I can hope now that I've closed the case is that my sons dad gets on with his life and that I haven't (albeit inadvertently) caused any damage.
It is of course so hard when we are left to our own devices, especially if we have children to look out for. It makes us vulnerable and we all need to be careful that in turn, that doesn't make us resentful or spiteful in our pursuit of 'correcting' the situation.
There is so much more peace to be found from allowing people to make their own choices. Once you accept full responsibility for your life in its entirety you'll never need to rely on someone else again and that is so liberating.
Knowing you have money coming in from an absent parent may be comforting, but it should never be a way of getting back at the other parent, diminishing your own responsibility or just for the sake of it because its easy money.
When we let go, we let in, so let's see what wonderful things come into the lives of all who were involved, now this situation is over. And that too is karma.
